Intimacy Influencer

Lola Kat Yonder

Meet the One and Only Lola Kat

Longtime Sexpert, Adult Toynthusiast, and Sensual Storyteller. LBA/ Brand Ambassador for System Jo. ADHD Advocate for Sex-Positive Intersectional Mental Health.

Lola Kat is ALL LUBED UP

Enter the Interview

I remember the first time I set foot in an adult toy store.

I was a young college student. My friend and I were driving en route to a pet store one night after class, with every intention to decompress by petting pussycats for comfort. Suddenly, out of the corner of her eye, my friend caught sight of an unfamiliar adult store and pulled a U-turn.

"Has that always been here?" she murmured. Her eyes lit up and she flashed me a grin and squealed, "Let's go on an adventure!"

As she parked her car in front of the boutique, I protested loudly-- the thought of entering this unknown territory made me nervous and anxious and weirdly-- instinctively-- guilty? In a dramatic instant I pictured a dingy truck-stop-porn-shop and practically begged her not to make me go inside. She could do whatever she wanted, I assured her, no judgement, I could just chill in the car and wait.

It took some major cajoling, even physically TUGGING on my sleeve for her to lead me into a store which would ultimately change the course of my adult life.

Once inside, I initially squinted as my eyes adjusted from the outward night: within, it was shockingly well-lit, and well-kept. There was cute blue carpeting, and clean white walls, which were lined floor to ceiling with every toy imaginable-- and some I would have never thought of in my limited experience. Vibrators and manual massagers of the external and internal varieties, front door and back door stimulators, in every shape, color, size, and affordable and premium materials; sexual support furniture; sex dolls; dance poles; books; DVDs. There were also cute product cubes with bath and body knick-knacks, as well as lubricants of every kind.

"Wow," my jaw dropped. It was certainly not what I expected.

I suddenly had the sense that we were two college kids that had stumbled into a proverbial candy store. My prior apprehension quickly subsided, and a healthy curiosity began to perk up in its place.

In my dream-like state, a friendly shop associate appeared-- she called herself a SESA, or sex educator, sales associate. In addition to the impressive variety of our surroundings, she offered a breadth and depth of knowledge that far exceeded my expectations. But then again, everything about this place overturned my expectations.

In a magical turn of events (and emotions)-- this store, which had singularly encompassed so many initial misgivings for me-- elevated in my mind's eye to one of my all-time favorite destination--on par with Disney Land or Disney World.

It felt positively spell-binding.

I began to go there by myself almost every week and pick up and handle each object and ask copious questions in an attempt to absorb everything each SESA explained to me.

It got to the point where, after graduating with a Hotel Restaurant management degree, and striking out at several hotel interviews, my friend suggested applying to this neighborhood adult boutique.

I applied. The same girl who greeted us the first time took my application and put a good word in. My interview for the job was by far, the most personal and interesting interview conversation I have ever had (and the longest, about 2 hours), but upon its conclusion I was hired on the spot. I remember celebrating with a giant milkshake on the way home, and bursting through the front door to inform my parents that I had been hired at a local video store.

My mom’s smile was very cautious, “A video store?”

Of course there were no Blockbusters anymore. Her smile faded as she thought her daughter had been hired at a ‘dirty’ video store, and she fell into a protective motherly tirade.

If ONLY she had walked in.

If ONLY had only opened the door to this store and saw what I saw.

It was SO much more than an adult movie store. To me, it was a window to wonderland. A gateway to wellness. A portal to pleasure.

THAT was a feeling I carried in my chest every time I walked in there.

So I chose my path. I started working at the neighborhood sin store, situated next to a drycleaners. A ‘dirty’ store, next to a ‘clean’ store, people would joke. Only there was nothing ‘dirty’ or ‘shameful’ about it. So my path became to work there, in hopes that I could grow, and help this store grow, and help all its customers grow in intimacy, and understanding that being more connected to their bodies was a beautiful thing.

Funnily enough, I was only supposed to work there for 6 months, gaining just enough cash handling experience to move on and work as a hotel concierge-- that was my original goal. But nothing in life goes exactly as planned, and we hope it turns out for the better.

I took root in that little store and continued to grow with them for 8 years.

I evolved from a bright-eyed busy tailed newbie sales associate to a neighborhood sex educator, occasional event coordinator, content creator, and a greater Philadelphia Vanna White of Vibrators (writing and performing several late-night tv infomercials for intimate products).

A few short months before COVID took hold of the US, that boutique and I parted ways.

But I became more determined than ever to find a way to work in the sexual wellness industry full-time-- as a voice for creative connection and intimate innovation.

Today, I take with me over 13 years of experience and passion for the adult industry and sexual wellness space.

I offer toy consults on zoom to the everyday consumer who is curious about what toy will best suit their needs, but who feels defeated by ‘option overwhelm’.

I create content for small businesses as well as big business in the adult space and have recently been scouted for a toy focus group on bullet vibes.

And I am proud to invest in my future through Loveology University’s triple certification program, so that I can offer a level of knowledge and expertise that will finally rival my years of experience and passion for the products.

Is any of this something that interests you? Excites you? Something you’ve been curious about but have never felt comfortable asking?

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Chat with me-- Lola Kat.

And Let’s TALK about the ‘eggplant’ in the room.

You guessed it: SEX.

Together, we'll re-write the narrative and assert that SEX, sensual pleasure, and sensual connectivity are no longer a shameful "no-no".

And we'll turn each unfounded reservation

on the trail of sexual liberation into a resounding "yes… Yes…. YES" ;-)

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I have lived, studied, spoken, engaged and can help you navigate areas that include dating, relationships, ADHD, neurodiversity, coping, sexuality, sensuality, and toys for beginners and veteran alike, for all kinds of humans (because every body is worthy and deserving of pleasure, love, and self-love).

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I'm a longtime influencer (since 2011); and have helped businesses generate engaging content, written pleasure product ad copy, performed for numerous years as a body positive model and brand ambassador, and helped lead/ facilitate workshops that open doors for you-- and your staff-- to engage with customers more empathically, knowledgeably, and effectively. Currently, I am also working directly with SYSTEM JO and would love to train your staff on our FDA-safe, 510(k) certified lubricants and body products suitable for ALL who seek to enhance and engage in intimacy and pleasure.

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